6. With Experience, Our Confidence Builds, Our Instincts Kick In
Having our babies get excited when they see us and knowing we are there for them when they need us feeds our souls as men. With experience, our confidence builds, our instincts kick in, and we start feeling like real dads. It just takes longer than with moms.
He Will Steadily Transform Into A Dad
Over time we gradually develop confidence and a sense of ourselves as fathers. As we learn to meet our babies’ needs, we come to trust our instincts and develop a quiet pride in ourselves. As we become comfortable in raising our children and helping them learn new things, we develop a deep awareness of how important we are to them. Any notion that your hubby will be inherently incapable with his baby will evaporate the first time you see him rock her to sleep in his arms.
His Child Offers Him a Great Deal
For a dad, little can compare to our child’s smile, comforting our little girl scared by a nightmare, or our son’s delight over knocking down the block tower we helped him build. No matter what happens in the rest of our life, we dads are always special to our child. As a deep and rich relationship with our child develops, we experience an unparalleled sense of purpose and manhood that fills our heart and soul and fulfills the core of our being. Being a father has a broad impact upon us that gives deep meaning to our lives. It enlarges us as men.
Men who do not do the job for their kids do not know what they are missing; otherwise they would. They never got connected in the first place. Help the new dad in your family get hands-on involved early, and then you can count on your baby to take it from there.
What was your guy’s experience in bonding and enjoying his child?
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Moms, check out this Top Ten list and let us know what you think. Share your experience about supporting a new dad, including what you did that worked and what you did that didn’t.
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